As the warm rays of summer touch our faces and the allure of adventures beckons, it is natural to feel excited about the possibilities that lie ahead. However, there may be moments when scrolling through your social media feeds leaves you feeling disheartened. Seeing others seemingly having a great time while you aren’t feeling your best can be emotionally challenging. But fear not, for you are not alone in this experience.

As a counsellor, I have encountered numerous individuals grappling with the same predicament. So, let us embark on a journey of self-compassion and self-care to navigate the seas of social media during this summer season.

1. Embrace Your Feelings: First and foremost, understand that it is okay to feel a mix of emotions when witnessing others’ experiences online. Emotions are an integral part of the human experience, and it’s alright to have days when you aren’t feeling your best. Allow yourself to acknowledge your feelings without judgment or criticism.
2. Limit Social Media Exposure: Although social media can keep us connected, it can also exacerbate feelings of inadequacy or FOMO. Consider limiting your time on these platforms, especially when you notice it negatively affecting your mood. Allocate time for activities that genuinely bring you joy and fulfilment.
3. Practice Self-Compassion: Extend the same kindness and understanding to yourself that you would offer a dear friend. Remember, what you see on social media is often a highlight reel, not the whole story. Be gentle with yourself and remind yourself that everyone experiences ups and downs in life.
4. Discover Your Inner Passions: Use this time to explore your interests and discover what truly brings you joy. Engage in activities that resonate with your soul, whether it’s reading a book, learning a new skill, or spending time in nature. Rediscover yourself beyond the realms of social media.
5. Connect with Loved Ones: Reach out to friends or family members whom you can share your feelings with openly. Sometimes, verbalising your emotions can alleviate their weight, and having a support system can make a significant difference in how you cope with emotions.
6. Set Realistic Expectations: Be wary of falling into the comparison trap. Life’s journey is unique for everyone, and what you see on social media is only a glimpse of someone else’s experiences. Set realistic expectations for yourself and embrace your individual path.
7. Seek Professional Help if Needed: If feelings of sadness, anxiety, or inadequacy persist, do not hesitate to seek support from a mental health professional. Talking to a counsellor can provide valuable insights and coping strategies tailored to your specific needs.
8. Practice Mindfulness: Embrace the present moment and immerse yourself fully in activities that nurture your well-being. Mindfulness practices, such as meditation or yoga, can help ground you and foster a deeper connection with your inner self.
9. Cultivate Gratitude: Gratitude is a powerful tool to shift our focus from what we lack to what we already have. Each day, take a moment to appreciate the simple joys in your life, like the warmth of the sun on your skin or the laughter of a loved one.

Remember, that your worth is not measured by the number of likes, comments, or the grandeur of your summer adventures. Embrace your journey, with all its twists and turns, and know that it is uniquely yours. This summer, let self-compassion be your guiding light and grant yourself the freedom to grow, heal, and find contentment in the beauty of your own experience.

May this season be one of self-discovery, inner peace, and a renewed sense of self-love. Embrace the journey, and remember, you are not alone.

With warmth and empathy, Andrea Binks Counsellor and Advocate for Self-Compassion